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Jun 4·edited Jun 4Liked by Pat Willard

Pat, this is the best example of second-person POV that I have ever seen. Truly excellent, compelling crafting (speaking technically) and (as Jolene says) profoundly powerful. (And I do remember lard icing, which was the norm in the 40s, before lard was demonized.) Thank you, thank you for this piece.

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Thank you Susan! That really means alot....

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Very moving, Pat. So sorry that this happened to you.

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Really didn't intend thjis piece to go where it went but then again it happens

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Thank you for being brave enough to include the story about the boy. It would have been very different without it, and not as powerful. It makes the story of innocence more real, because this is what really happens to women and girls, sometimes when we least expect it or don't even know what to expect.

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I've been saying this alot with comments but I didn't mean this piece to go where it went--I just wanted to write about lard icing. Just popped up. Writing is weird that way.

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Yes. But you didn’t delete it.

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Jun 20Liked by Pat Willard

That's a beautiful cake in the photo!

I have an old and yellowed book here called "Simplified Cake Decorating" from Ateco (6th Edition). Neither lard nor Crisco is mentioned.

Sorry about the boy taking advantage of your trust and innocence at what should have been a happy occasion.

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What do they say? what kind of icing recipe?

Hate that neighborhood

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There are several recipes in the book, including royal icing and cake recipes for bakeries. There are instructions for the use of "ornamenting tubes."

The buttercream recipe says "Some bakers practically use ordinary grease or lard and with the addition of sugar, yolks, etc., attempt to call it butter cream. Do not make this mistake." on a budget, use at least 3/4 butter...

(I tried to paste a link to a copy of the recipe here, but did not work!)

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Jun 20Liked by Pat Willard

This was fun to watch. Also enjoyed the focus on healthier but tasty frosting. Adorable kids! I had never heard of lard icing so this was very interesting. This seems to be like eating raw leaf lard. We need to remember the times before Crisco.

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Pat- it was hard for me to comment on this when I first read this as I too had a moment around the same age. I’m so sorry…for both of us.💔

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We got a lot of company....But look at us now! Two pretty great put-together (on most days) women!

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Oh my god Pat 😢 I was reading along and then… I am so sorry.

I would recognize that habit anywhere: I had the Sisters of St. Joseph, too (Academy of St. Joseph, Brentwood)

This is a powerful piece.

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Thanks Jolene. The things that come out when all you wantr to write about is lard icing!

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